I am a seeker.
A question-asker. An inquiring mind. I always want to know the answeranswersthe
truth, the whole story, the big picture . . . You get the idea. When I was
a little girl, the grown-ups found it cute, endearingsomehow it meant
that I was smart. It wasn't until I got older that those same people began
to grow impatient with my incessant inquiries.
"Iodine,"
my grandmother called me, after an incorrigible character from a 1950s comic
strip. I learned to quiet it a bit for periods of time, but it always comes
back. Lovers, like the adults of my childhood, find it so charming in the
beginning, until the inevitable breaking point: "Do you really need to
know if there is a God at 7 a.m.I'm sleeping, and I have a meeting in
two hours and I really need my rest and . . . " BUT I really need to
know. Really. Right now. Because I'm JUST WONDERING. I'm Curious. But, really,
I'm just so scared a lot and I need to know that there are some answers. To
something. Anything. To God, or does my dog really miss me when
I'm away, and does my math score really have to count on the IQ test? Leave
me alone. I'm sleeping.
Recently,
I've had to spend a lot of time in Los Angeles. Which makes me particularly
on edgeon the edge. There are auditions and meetings and
agents and managers. My agents hate my manager and somebody thinks I need
a publicist and I just want to go home. I miss my girlfriend. And my dog.
And my mom.
What
my sleepy lovers fail to understand: I don't wake them up because I think
it would be really interesting to know the answers to random questions; I
wake them up because the Questions wake me and I do not want to hang out with
them alone. Imagine your most annoying relatives, bringing up the most inappropriate
topic at the most inopportune timethe kind that make you want to take
up heroinor take back heroin, as the case may be. And that would be
even more cliché than the stupid questions.
So
I'm stuck. With them. Aunt Bertha, Uncle George, Gramma Dotty . . . And here
we all are, and it's 4 a.m., and I'm in L.A., and there's no one to wake up,
so it's just me and them. I get up, I walk around, I make tea. Its 4.30 a.m.,
and the question voices are fighting with the reason voices and I am fucked.
* * *
So, I took up
yoga (which I'm not sure is less cliché than heroin, but at least it
doesn't make you constipated). And it really was (kind of) just like that.
It's 5 a.m., the Questions are going full-throttle, my legs dangle in the
freezing cold swimming pool while I burn my mouth on a cup of Celestial Season's
Tension Tamer tea and NOTHING'S WORKING. The tension will not be tamed. The
Questions are demanding answers. And then, I remember a recent conversation
with my dear friend, Gina, who also happens to be a yoga instructor-in-training.
Yoga, she claimed, is the ANSWER, because, she advised, it would really "center
me."
"But,
I've done yoga before, and it requires a level of patience that I just don't
have," I told her. "Try it again," she replied. "Trust
me."
So,
I do. And it's great. Wonderful. Gina was right. I just needed to give it
another try. We breath, we chant, we hold our arms up in the air for 11 minutes
at a time, which the teacher tells us will increase our willpower to astronomical
levels. I leave relaxed, focused, and quiet-minded. I buy a ten-class pass,
determined to develop a "practice." I go home feeling virtuous,
and more importantly, like Im going to sleep easy tonight. And I do.
The next night is the same. But, life being life, and me being me, the following
night is a mess, and I'm an anxious wreck for the day. But it's OK, because
I have yoga, and I'm going tonight.
"I
am devoting tonights class to getting us all out of our brains,"
announces Gurmukh, my yoga teacher (actually to call her simply a "yoga
teacher" is completely inadequate, because Gurmukh, as I would later
find out, is a living legend, but that is another story entirely; so, for
this purpose, she's a yoga teacher).
"Great,"
I think. "That is exactly what I need to get out of my head a bit.
This is perfect."
And
on we go. I am trying to breathe myself out of my brain, when I start to feel
really bad.
As
it turns out, my brain will not relinquish control without a fight, and the
whole thing is putting me into a bit of a panic. I look around the room. Everyone
else seems to be doing great. Gurmukh is nodding and smiling, and I think
they're all a bunch of psychotic freaks and I can't believe I bought a ten-class
pack to this strange L.A. cult, and I just feel awful. Furthermore,
I REALLY CANNOT believe I actually listened to my yoga-teacher-in-training-friend
when I already knew that yoga was NOT for me. And now, not only is yoga not
quieting the Questions in my head, ITS CAUSING them, and I'm pissed.
Class finally ends and I wonder if anyone notices that I have completely lost
my mind in the process of trying stop using it quite so much. Nope. They haven't
noticed. Because, they are drinking "yogi tea" and eating graham
crackers, and are "so happy to be fully experiencing the intuitive part
of my brain." I REALLY hate Los Angeles.
So,
I drive home to a bevy of wine and Camel Lights, vowing NEVER to take anyone's
advice ever again. I'm not really angrymostly, I'm just freaked out,
because it appears that it's just me and the Questions again, and there will
never really be answers. And that just sucks.
I
call Gina, in large part to blame, but also (in small part), because I need
help. More advice, if you must know.
"Do
you think that yoga could hurt me?"
Embarrassed
Silence from Gina.
"Not
physicallyI know that sounds dumbbut, like maybe it's just the
wrong thing for the kind of person I am, and that I could, in fact, as a result,
have an adverse reaction to it?"
More
Silence from Gina.
I
think, but I'm not completely sure, that she's laughing.
"Are
you laughing?"
Laughter,
now I am sure I hear laughter.
"No,
I am absolutely not laughing."
"Good."
"But,
Rachael, I have to tell you that yoga can't hurt you . . . you were probably
experiencing some pretty heavy things and you're just adjusting to them."
"But
it made me feel Bad." (A sentence I have not uttered since
nursery school years.)
"Well,
sometimes that happens."
We
go back and forth like this for awhile, until finally I promise that I will
go back to yoga, and that I understand that all of this has some kind of deeper
meaning. Of course I do.
In
spite of how it may appear, I am no stranger to alternative methods of healing.
It's just yoga- there has always been something about it that has been extraordinarily
difficult for me. But I promised Gina that I will continue. That could be
the endI stick with it, have a great turn around with yoga, blah, blah,
blah . . . And that probably would have been the end, if not for what happened
to me the following day.
* * *
I'm driving home,
at the wrong time, a different route than usualyou know the drill. And
there's traffic. Lots of traffic. And I'm cursing myself for driving home
at this time, this way. Finally, I get through the canyon, and am ready to
make the turn that will bring me home when I hear honking. Shut the
fuck up, I think. Loudly. Angrily, I look around to see who the culprit
is, but Im distracted by a swarm of people gathered at the intersection.
Now,
people do not just "gather" in Los Angeles. Anywhere. So
this is, in itself, some cause for attention. Then, I saw their signs: "Say
No to War in Iraq," "Healthcare not Warfare," "Honk for
Peace."
Oh,
yeah . . .
And
I started to cry. In the interest of time (and the number of words I've been
allotted here), I will not go into great detail about my feelings on this
impending war. But I will tell you that it is one of the greatest sources
of sadness, loneliness, and utter hopelessness to me in my lifetime and when
I saw those people gathered there, I turned my car around, no questions asked,
and I joined them. Not because Im a really good person. Or an activist,
even. I did it because I had to. It was a feeling I had never experienced
before.
And
I don't care what your politics are, because this is not about politics .
. . This is not about politics, or wars, or even about yoga, when you really
get down to it . . . it's about my first lesson in intuition. Intuition, the
antidote to crazy questions, the conqueror of bad advice . . . And I guess
I did come to it through yoga. How L.A.
RACHAEL C. SMITH has been dominating New York City nightlife since she was in her training bra. You can find her every Thursday at Gloss, her weekly girlie party at Meow Mix, and monthly, at her burlesque soiree, "Bombshell!". Catch her in this month's Jane magazine giving advice on how to pick up chicks. She still hasn't invested in her own yoga mat.